, What I learnt over the course of my life, I wrote in ‘The Book of Life’.
When we are born, we generally arrive complete — give or take a limb or a toe. We have everything we need to function physically and emotionally, and with the intellectual capacity we need to grow and sustain ourselves.
We are therefore complete human beings. We are not missing any parts whether they are emotional, mental, or spiritual. We are not missing a spiritual arm, a mental ear, or even an emotional component.
So where does this myth come from that we are incomplete without our better half? Often, our so-called better half is really the worst possible part in our lives and not only falls short of completing our mythical union, but renders completion impossible!
If we really look closely at some of the possibilities why society indoctrinates its members into the cult of incompletion, we begin to free ourselves of lonely boxes, limiting restriction of labels, and the anguish of ineptitude.
Far too often, we, as members of our society, simply accept laws and regulations without question. Perhaps we should seek to understand morals before we simply accept them as Gospel! Society lays down laws, morals, and standards in order to control the masses. As shocking a revelation as this may be to some, we must see the control mechanisms for what they are. However, this does not automatically make all of society’s impositions as wrongful and confining.
In some respects, living alone is true freedom. I did not necessarily choose to remain single, but that is where I am at this part of my life. It’s neither good nor a bad thing. Would I like to be involved again or perhaps even married one day? Absolutely, I definitely would — if I found someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
Below is one of my favourite sayings. I think it sums up the discussion of why some of us remain single.